Taking it easy in the ways of love. Letting each other be and be themselves and go where they want and with who they want, even when it’s not with you. Especially when it’s not with you. Trying to be friends and realizing even that is a two-way street. Filtering out the real from the fake and learning the difference. Suddenly remembering that someone else has felt the same way you feel right now, sad and alone and wondering why this one person doesn’t love them, but they have felt that way about you and you weren’t even thinking about them. Realizing that he’s not even thinking about you.
Experience. Experience experience experience. Sometimes we try to protect each other from experience because we regret not knowing what we know now. We want to use our experience to save someone from the grief and heartache that we feel for our regret. We want to put our regret to use because at least that seemingly negative experience can benefit someone else. We don’t realize that everyone has to go through the experiences they are meant to go through, regardless of whether we want them to or not. One can only truly learn from the experiences they have themselves.
We want to put our regret to use because at least that seemingly negative experience can benefit someone else, but why not let it benefit ourselves? And why call it regret? Why must we use our experience to stay back and teach others, rather than moving forward with the knowledge that we have gained and applying it to our own lives? We are so used to seeking validation from others that we don’t even allow ourselves to benefit from our own experiences. In many instances, implying that you even think that you are of any value will elicit comments from others that you are conceited. We are instinctively insecure. We believe in the people and roads and signs and trees and everything that we see around us and we forget that we can’t count on anything and that the closest thing to real trust that we have is with ourselves.